TIPS FOR HELPING KIDS ADJUST TO THE MOVE
When it comes to moving, everyone can get butterflies in the stomach, but kids are especially susceptible to anxiety. They get concerned about what will happen and what they are taking with them. I remember the most recent move we made, the girls were very upset and asked lots of questions about what we were taking with us.
At first, they were really nervous that they would have to leave their toys and beds etc. Then, they got curious about what else was coming. They asked all kinds of questions like "Are we taking the doors with us?" or "What about the windows?" or "Are my friends moving with us?" After the move they were nervous about making new friends and their new school. As parents, we want to help comfort and reassure our kids that everything will alright, but sometimes we don't exactly know how to do that. Today I want to help give you some tools to help combat those fears and anxieties.
1. Focus on the positives
Most likely, the reasons you are moving are positive ones. Talk with your kids about these reasons so that will have a more positive outlook on moving.
2. Let them express their feelings (appropriately) and validate them
Anxiety and fear are very normal feeling for kids, but they don't necessarily know that they are normal. Let them express their feelings so that they aren't all bottled up. Then explain to them that these feelings a normal and that it is okay to feel that way. Then, try to reassure them that although their fears are to be expected, there are ways to help combat those fears and anxieties.
3. Become involved in the community yourself
By being involved in the community, you build relationships not only for you, but also for your children. Building these relationships will help to your child feel like they belong.
4. Stay in touch with the old community
This can be hard to keep on top of as life gets busy, but kids love to talk to their old friends. Try doing Skype calls or Facetime. If you child is older they can even write letters as pen pals.
5. Use this as an opportunity to strengthen your family's bond
You've heard of the expression going "through the trenches" with someone. Well, that is exactly what this move is for your family. A trench for you to go through together so that you are stronger when you come out the other side. Take the opportunity to help strengthen, encourage, and build each other up whenever someone is feeling the stress and your family will thrive when it's all said and done.
6. Give your child some control
Let the kids help out with the moving process. Giving them tasks can help them take ownership of the move. Let them help pick out paint or carpet for their new room and/or toy room. They could even help you with packing non breakable things such as Tupperware or toys.
7. Keep your child's schedule the same as much as possible
A consistent schedule is comforting to adults as well as children. Knowing exactly what to expect creates security. The more secure they feel the quicker they will adjust.
8. Plan some fun activities to do as soon as you arrive
Give your child something to look forward to!
- Try out the local ice cream parlor
- Sign your kids up for a new library card
- Go to 1 new park a day to find out which one is the family favorite
9. Take care of yourself
Make sure you get enough sleep at night! Don't stay up too late packing and getting things ready. It is hard to be patient with your child when you are exhausted. During this time, when your child is stressed, they will require more patience. Help yourself be well equipped to help carry your child's burdens.
10. Set up the kids' rooms first
Giving your child a finished space of their own creates a sense of comfort and familiarity. It also provides a "safe place" for them to go when they are feeling overwhelmed with all of the changes.
Thanks for joining me and have a great day!
- Chrissy
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Chrissy
Myers
Realtor Direct: 937.241.7123 Office: 734.944.7900 1365 E Michigan Ave Saline, MI 48176 ChrissyMyers@RealEstateOne.com |
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